Why “should” is shit!

Why “should” you do anything at all?! Should has been included in our language and our conditioning for so long that we continually, negatively talk to ourselves on a daily basis. Have you ever woken up late and thought I should have exercised this morning, I SHOULD have gotten up earlier? Do you think to […]

Why "should" you do anything at all?!

Should has been included in our language and our conditioning for so long that we continually, negatively talk to ourselves on a daily basis.

Have you ever woken up late and thought I should have exercised this morning, I SHOULD have gotten up earlier?

Do you think to yourself any of the following:

  • I SHOULD earn more money?
  • I SHOULD be promoted?
  • I SHOULD be more successful at my age?
The problem with should is, it is shit!!
 
Should is often based on what other people are doing or what other people have got or what we’ve been conditioned to believe…
  • You SHOULD be married by now
  • You SHOULD own a house
  • You SHOULD be at the peak of your career
 
So how do we reframe this in our minds and how do we focus away from should and into our own power. Growth and transformation occur not by changing who we are, but when we summon the courage to BE who we are!
Try asking yourself – do I WANT to exercise more? Now swap the words. I WANT to get up early tomorrow and work out – how differently do you feel about that statement? And if you don’t want to get up early why are you telling yourself you should?
So next time you catch yourself saying “I should… try replacing it with one of the following and see if it fits:
  • I want
  • I am
  • I can’t wait to
 
If it doesn’t feel right then maybe you shouldn’t be doing it at all.
Stepping into our own power is all about being guided by our intuition, our own story, what we truly want when we are being true to ourselves – have you listened to your own voice and how you speak about yourself to yourself?
“You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness”. – Brene Brown
 
Do you want to connect with your voice?
Do you want to focus on your own story removing external distractions?
Do you want to become the most empowered version of yourself?
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